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this thread is a breath of crisp clean air. thanks all! tastes good.
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Post by lisa on Feb 8, 2012 14:39:53 GMT -5
Thank you, Mamza, Enigma, and ZD. Lisa, if you're not sure you can distinguish between the two, just take a second to notice what you're doing. If you're halfway through writing a check, that's what you must be doing, right? Because if it weren't what you must be doing, you wouldn't be doing it. May I take that to mean that "just do what the body knows must be done this moment" is already whatever it is you happen to be doing? I am embarrassed to admit to a bit of disappointment, as I was hoping that it meant it would somehow clue me in on what I should -really- be doing, lol. … …If there even is such a thing, that is. Hm. @ ZD: Thank you. I hadn't realized woo-woo experiences were so transitory for most people; nice to know. Yeah, I put very little stock in the small ones I've had, and from the sounds of it, it'd be pointless to wait for a Buddha-scale one. Fortunately I never believed such a thing would happen to me anyway, so it's not like I've been expecting such a thing. … I haven't read Byron Katie's book yet, so I took nobodyishome's suggestion of the title and have picked up a used copy off amazon. I look forward to reading it. I also look forward to your thoughts on that picture, if/when you feel like posting any. |
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Post by nobodyishome on Feb 8, 2012 15:10:41 GMT -5
ZD wrote some great stuff here:
Okay, at the risk of boring everyone, here is some “real world” advice for everyone struggling with ANY kind of “problem.”
One hand clapping wrote, “I’m wrestling with the concept of what I should or shouldn’t be doing with my life career wise.” He also wrote, “I guess the advice I seek is the aforementioned question of where does one find motivation when there’s none to be found?”
Zenman wrote, “I’m 41 and struggle with the career thing too……I think most people accept that having a deeply meaningful job is rare so they just make the best of whatever career they’re in.”
A woman called from California and said, “I had to do a public performance last night, and I was so exhausted that the thought of getting up and doing the performance was simply overwhelming. I didn’t want to fake it, and I didn’t want to do it. It takes so much energy to put on all that makeup, and put a huge smile on your face, and psyche yourself up when you just don’t feel like it. I felt so depressed that I put on a CD by Tony Parsons hoping to cheer myself up, but it made things worse! Tony said that there is no hope, and that there is nothing anyone can do to improve their situation. It made me so frustrated to think that there is nothing I can do to find happiness or even feel better about what I’m doing.”
Tonight, a fellow contractor (whose wife died in a tragic accident two years ago) said, “I’m dating again, but I’m wrestling with guilt about my relationships with women. I don’t want to hurt anyone or use anyone, but I also don’t want to be a monk. My friends have told me to accept the fact that I’ll probably never find another soulmate (similar to his former wife) in this lifetime. They’ve told me to just go on dates and have fun and quit worrying about all the stuff that’s bothering me, but I want to find someone I can enjoy being with all the time. I want an emotional and spiritual connection with someone who shares my sense of play and adventure—someone with whom I can relax and be myself and enjoy being with all the time. What should I do?”
A woman said, “I feel like a failure because I never found a vocation in life that I could feel totally passionate about. I would love to find some kind of work that I could lose myself in, something that pays well and allows me to express myself creatively.”
A man said, “I want to be happy, but I don’t know what that even means. I can’t imagine what I could do that would give me what I want. If I can’t be happy, then I’d at least like to have peace. Is that too much to ask?”
What is the one thing that all of these people have in common? They all have “problems” that result from being attached to various thoughts, and most of those thoughts involve an imaginary future.
This is what we might call “ordinary” life for most people. To get a sense of what is possible, I would recommend that anyone suffering from these kinds of problems should go see a documentary movie currently playing in a limited number of theaters. It is titled “Bill Cunningham, New York City.” This will give you an idea of what is possible when the mind is not dominant in life. Bill Cunningham is a fashion photographer who rides around NYC on a bicycle taking pictures of what interests him. He works for the New York Times and his life is remarkable; it is totally Zen. He cares nothing about money or fame or happiness or peace, yet he is as happy as a clam. Hundreds of famous well-known people know him, but he doesn’t care. He has won all kinds of awards, but he doesn’t care. He probably has never meditated, or heard of non-duality, but he is spiritual (in the best sense) and he lives a non-dual life. Go see the movie to get a sense of what is possible.
Cunningham is not enlightened in the way of a Zen Master, but his life will seem extraordinary compared to the lives that most people live. The question is, “How can someone else find what Bill Cunningham exhibits?”
At this point, and because most people on this forum are fairly sophisticated in their understanding of non-duality issues, lets make something clear; all of the words that will be used from this point on are pointing at something that is beyond thought, and each teacher of non-duality chooses which approach seems most appropriate. Tony Parsons says that there is nothing anyone can do to wake up, or find happiness, or resolve any problems. Gangaji and some other teachers use the opposite approach. Both teachings are pointing to the exact same truth. I prefer the approach that Gangaji uses, so I tell people that they can do certain things that will lead to freedom. What are those things?
1. Recognize that thoughts are the root cause of all problems.
2. Recognize that most adults are dominated by incessant thoughts, most of which are unnecessary.
3. Resolve to break the habit of incessant thoughts.
4. Recognize that freedom lies in non-abidance in the mind.
5. When it is recognized that thoughts are causing a problem, shift attention away from thoughts to what can be seen or heard. Scan the field of vision rather than focus on individual things within the field. Keep the eyes moving. If the mind names what is seen, ignore that and keep looking. If the mind gets carried away into fantasies about what is seen, ignore that and return to looking. If the mind is so frenetic that it is impossible to hold attention upon the visual or aural fields, then try some breath-counting or other simple meditative techniques to establish some psychological space.
6. Become focused on what is happening in the present moment. If you haven’t read The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle, get a copy and read it. Forget the future.
7. Ask yourself, “What must I be doing right this moment?” You body knows, so listen to it.
8. Just do it. Do whatever you have to do this moment without reflection. Don’t look back and don’t look ahead. Stay focused on what is happening now.
9. Don’t check how you’re doing. Forget about making progress. Get lost in what you’re doing and stay lost! If you’re washing the dishes, just wash the dishes. Put your total concentration upon what you’re doing.
10. If you’re driving a car, leave the radio off and just look at the world. Listen to what you can hear.
11. Go for walks in parks or wilderness areas and just look at the world. If thoughts appear, ignore them and keep looking. If they’re important, write them down so that you can deal with them later, and keep looking. Focus upon “what is.”
12. Be incredibly persistent. Most adults waste several hours each day doing nonsense stuff, playing video games or watching sitcoms. Develop a warrior mentality. Your goal is to leave the mind behind.
I could write hundreds of pages about this stuff, but this provides a general outline. What is the ultimate payoff? Freedom from the mind. Probably the best definition of enlightenment is “non-abidance in the mind.” Thoughts perpetuate the illusion that there is an entity, a separate self, choosing to do things and pursue various activities. This is an illusion, but it is deeply embedded in the human psyche.
What is the payoff? No you and no problems. The price is steep because this means that who you think you are must be relinquished. If you become enlightened, there will be no you who can take credit for it. You will realize that who you thought you were never existed at all.
When you disappear, creativity increases, and the world is seen to be a miraculous and magical place. You will feel like playing all the time, and work will become play because there will be no you trying to control anything or take credit for anything. Everything will become empty and self-illuminating. You will see everything and everyone as yourself—your True Self.
The path from incessant thought to non-abidance in the mind is not quick and easy for most people. Most people will go through periods of intense effort and other periods where nothing seems to be happening. Persistence and non-reflectivity are the keys. Count breaths, look at the world, walk in the woods, take time to smell the roses, be nice to your body, help other people, give away time or money to a good cause, take vitamins, exercise, and stop reflecting about the future. As you become more focused upon the here and now, new possibilities will arise, and new interests will appear. Ignore your friends and family and business associates if they have a problem with what you’re doing. Freedom is more important than anyone else’s opinions about you. Freedom is more important than satisfying anyone’s stultifying expectations of you.
If you want to get free, you have to be willing to leave the world you have known behind. Some people are lucky and have supportive families; others are not so lucky. Do what you have to do. Trust the universe 100%. The more you trust it, the more you will realize it can be trusted to give you everything.
I’ll write more later, but its been a long day and I’ve got to get to bed. Until then be of good cheer. Keep a smile on your face. Let your sense of humor run wild. An unimaginable fantastic world awaits discovery. You knew it as a young child, but it never went away. You did! Now you need to find your way back. Cheers and good luck.[/b] NBisH
I have to say I know all this but I am certainly not as awake as I wish myself to be.
ZD advice is good but how do I apply it to this very real present crisis in my life.
I am currently living in the basement of a home which is leased to a women that has severe mental problems as well as auto-immune issues. She told me I need to be out by the following weekend or she will call the coppers! It came out of the blue but she is serious. I have next to no money and have my life companion dog that I love more than any person that I have loved. It's next to impossible for me now not to have my mind in future thought because the very real possibility of being out on the streets in the cold winter is there.
I have looked and looked for work, placed numerous ads on Craig Lists for alternative places to stay ending up with no working results. I'm a 58 year old man with OK health. Now one thing did pop up for me a sort of intentional community in Ashville NC, www.fortunity.org but I have no way of getting there except looking for ride-shares on CL which are not turning up anything for me.
I will tell you when I had money non duality was so darn easy but man when things get this fuk up it really messes with the mind.I seriously felt that I had the incessant thought to non-abidance in the mind down and pat and now I am seeing myself being triggered in ways that are shocking my very core. How can I just sit and smell the flowers and look at trees and just be present when each day I am becoming closer to being entirely homeless.
Anyhow that's me being as vulnerable as I can with you folks.
On a separate note I will see about uploading Bill Cunningham, NY on youtube.
Thanks
NBisH
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Post by andrew on Feb 8, 2012 15:32:57 GMT -5
That intentional community looks like a good option NBisH. I think it would be unreasonable to expect yourself to not be thinking about the future at the moment, your bodymind system is quite naturally and correctly going to be coming up with different options to consider at the moment, and thats gotta be a good thing.
Is hitch hiking is a feasible option where you are.....? I assume you have no other family/friends you could move in with....? (Im not asking you to give me an answer to that question, its your business of course).
One of the reasons I turned to the manifesting material in the end was because my bodymind system was giving me such strong signals to pay attention to the conditions, and no amount of 'being present' was gonna change the conditions significantly. In a way, at the time, my attempts to be present in the face of my quite disastrous conditions was going AGAINST the flow of intelligence. I basically discovered that my bodymind system really is kinda fussy about the conditions! It has preferences! So I can totally relate to the lack of appeal in being homeless in winter. You gotta do what you can to stay warm.
Makes me think of my current situation with my Mum, who has been in poor health. 7 months ago when I saw her for the first time in ages, she was close to death. Now although I am really quite at peace and at ease at the deepest level with the potential of her death, at the level of the bodymind system, I have been absolutely compelled to help her work towards health. To an onlooker of the family, it could look as if I am quite obsessed with helping her to get well, at the very least it looks like a strong attachment/dedication. And in a way it is an attachment, but its not 'mine'. Its quite simply that its not appropriate or right for me to NOT do absolutely everything I can. In 7 months she has come along way with me and my wife basically carrying her. She is at a stage now where I am more walking next to her than carrying her. Time will tell what happens. I have to do everything I can.
I guess what Im saying is that 'peace' isnt just about sitting back and watching the flowers and being present. It is very practical, very dynamic. I am dedicated and committed and compelled, albeit in a pretty surrendered way, to take clear and positive action. I am compelled to fight the illness all the way. I am committed to doing everything I can to help my Mum get well. If she gets well, great. If not, well, I will have done all I could, and all I have been guided to do.
I guess what Im saying NBisH is that non-duality really is a very practical and active thing in the end. I dont think 'peace' would have you sitting around watching the flowers waiting to be evicted. At the very least it would have you exploring options.
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Post by popee2 on Feb 8, 2012 15:59:25 GMT -5
Sorry to hear of your difficulties NBisH. I wish you well.
Where are you currently located?
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Post by nobodyishome on Feb 8, 2012 16:15:20 GMT -5
That intentional community looks like a good option NBisH. I think it would be unreasonable to expect yourself to not be thinking about the future at the moment, your bodymind system is quite naturally and correctly going to be coming up with different options to consider at the moment, and thats gotta be a good thing. Is hitch hiking is a feasible option where you are.....? I assume you have no other family/friends you could move in with....? (Im not asking you to give me an answer to that question, its your business of course). One of the reasons I turned to the manifesting material in the end was because my bodymind system was giving me such strong signals to pay attention to the conditions, and no amount of 'being present' was gonna change the conditions significantly. In a way, at the time, my attempts to be present in the face of my quite disastrous conditions was going AGAINST the flow of intelligence. I basically discovered that my bodymind system really is kinda fussy about the conditions! It has preferences! So I can totally relate to the lack of appeal in being homeless in winter. You gotta do what you can to stay warm. Makes me think of my current situation with my Mum, who has been in poor health. 7 months ago when I saw her for the first time in ages, she was close to death. Now although I am really quite at peace and at ease at the deepest level with the potential of her death, at the level of the bodymind system, I have been absolutely compelled to help her work towards health. To an onlooker of the family, it could look as if I am quite obsessed with helping her to get well, at the very least it looks like a strong attachment/dedication. And in a way it is an attachment, but its not 'mine'. Its quite simply that its not appropriate or right for me to NOT do absolutely everything I can. In 7 months she has come along way with me and my wife basically carrying her. She is at a stage now where I am more walking next to her than carrying her. Time will tell what happens. I have to do everything I can. I guess what Im saying is that 'peace' isnt just about sitting back and watching the flowers and being present. It is very practical, very dynamic. I am dedicated and committed and compelled, albeit in a pretty surrendered way, to take clear and positive action. I am compelled to fight the illness all the way. I am committed to doing everything I can to help my Mum get well. If she gets well, great. If not, well, I will have done all I could, and all I have been guided to do. I guess what Im saying NBisH is that non-duality really is a very practical and active thing in the end. I dont think 'peace' would have you sitting around watching the flowers waiting to be evicted. At the very least it would have you exploring options.
Notwithstanding a ride share hitchhiking would be my only option.
I would have enough for a bus ticket but they don't allow dogs so that's out and I have nowhere enough to fly.
I don't know and that much I do know. Honestly I never felt so down as I do now and yes there is fear. It's a funny thing I'm a Vietnam Vet, boots down. Though Nam was no picnic and I watched my friends die, this situation is hitting me much harder. I have no support system of friends.
I do know ppl in California where I lived before that if I showed up that could possibility help but who knows. I burnt many ole good bridges in my life. I have always been self-sufficient and depended on no one but myself.
What hurts deeply for me is not finding any work to just have a little cushion and not from lack of trying.
Anyhoo
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2012 16:15:27 GMT -5
yes NBisH, that sounds extremely tough in a dual sort of way. probably ZD's advice still is the best.
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 16:15:37 GMT -5
I will tell you when I had money non duality was so darn easy but man when things get this fuk up it really messes with the mind.I seriously felt that I had the incessant thought to non-abidance in the mind down and pat and now I am seeing myself being triggered in ways that are shocking my very core. How can I just sit and smell the flowers and look at trees and just be present when each day I am becoming closer to being entirely homeless.
Anyhow that's me being as vulnerable as I can with you folks. Hey there NBisH, I'm really sorry to hear you're having a tough time at the moment. It sounds like you're being really challenged to engage with society on it's terms (money, food, travel, accomodation) rather than yours. There is a lot to be said for trusting the Universe, but there's also that phrase about God helping those who help themselves. Anyway, good luck, man. Peter |
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Post by nobodyishome on Feb 8, 2012 16:16:47 GMT -5
Sorry to hear of your difficulties NBisH. I wish you well. Where are you currently located?
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Post by andrew on Feb 8, 2012 16:23:40 GMT -5
That intentional community looks like a good option NBisH. I think it would be unreasonable to expect yourself to not be thinking about the future at the moment, your bodymind system is quite naturally and correctly going to be coming up with different options to consider at the moment, and thats gotta be a good thing. Is hitch hiking is a feasible option where you are.....? I assume you have no other family/friends you could move in with....? (Im not asking you to give me an answer to that question, its your business of course). One of the reasons I turned to the manifesting material in the end was because my bodymind system was giving me such strong signals to pay attention to the conditions, and no amount of 'being present' was gonna change the conditions significantly. In a way, at the time, my attempts to be present in the face of my quite disastrous conditions was going AGAINST the flow of intelligence. I basically discovered that my bodymind system really is kinda fussy about the conditions! It has preferences! So I can totally relate to the lack of appeal in being homeless in winter. You gotta do what you can to stay warm. Makes me think of my current situation with my Mum, who has been in poor health. 7 months ago when I saw her for the first time in ages, she was close to death. Now although I am really quite at peace and at ease at the deepest level with the potential of her death, at the level of the bodymind system, I have been absolutely compelled to help her work towards health. To an onlooker of the family, it could look as if I am quite obsessed with helping her to get well, at the very least it looks like a strong attachment/dedication. And in a way it is an attachment, but its not 'mine'. Its quite simply that its not appropriate or right for me to NOT do absolutely everything I can. In 7 months she has come along way with me and my wife basically carrying her. She is at a stage now where I am more walking next to her than carrying her. Time will tell what happens. I have to do everything I can. I guess what Im saying is that 'peace' isnt just about sitting back and watching the flowers and being present. It is very practical, very dynamic. I am dedicated and committed and compelled, albeit in a pretty surrendered way, to take clear and positive action. I am compelled to fight the illness all the way. I am committed to doing everything I can to help my Mum get well. If she gets well, great. If not, well, I will have done all I could, and all I have been guided to do. I guess what Im saying NBisH is that non-duality really is a very practical and active thing in the end. I dont think 'peace' would have you sitting around watching the flowers waiting to be evicted. At the very least it would have you exploring options.
Notwithstanding a ride share hitchhiking would be my only option.
I would have enough for a bus ticket but they don't allow dogs so that's out and I have nowhere enough to fly.
I don't know and that much I do know. Honestly I never felt so down as I do now and yes there is fear. It's a funny thing I'm a Vietnam Vet, boots down. Though Nam was no picnic and I watched my friends die, this situation is hitting me much harder. I have no support system of friends.
I do know ppl in California where I lived before that if I showed up that could possibility help but who knows. I burnt many ole good bridges in my life. I have always been self-sufficient and depended on no one but myself.
What hurts deeply for me is not finding any work to just have a little cushion and not from lack of trying.
Anyhoo
thanks for your thoughts
NBisHIt'll work itself out, its just a question of what action you will have to take in the next period to look after yourself in the best way possible. I really do get a feeling for your situation. Just...do what you need to do. Maybe its time to lean on some old family and friends and build some of those bridges. I dont know. As I said, not so long ago I really thought it possible that I wouldnt really see my Mum and Dad again, but here I am seeing them every day. Your life may take a very unexpected turn. Wishing you all the best for now. |
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Post by andrew on Feb 8, 2012 16:28:21 GMT -5
I will tell you when I had money non duality was so darn easy but man when things get this fuk up it really messes with the mind.I seriously felt that I had the incessant thought to non-abidance in the mind down and pat and now I am seeing myself being triggered in ways that are shocking my very core. How can I just sit and smell the flowers and look at trees and just be present when each day I am becoming closer to being entirely homeless.
Anyhow that's me being as vulnerable as I can with you folks. There is a lot to be said for trusting the Universe, but there's also that phrase about God helping those who help themselves. Yes, it can be tricky finding that balance. There have been times when I have discovered that trusting means getting off my a** and taking drastic action to get myself out a hole. Its a funny old thing. |
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Post by Beingist on Feb 8, 2012 16:29:56 GMT -5
My very best thoughts for you, also, NBisH. If I lived anywhere near there, I'd offer you a stay at my place 'til you could get back on your feet. Unfortunately, I'm in California, am going to be moving in November, and the current place won't allow dogs, either. My dog of thirteen years showed me that dogs really are man's best friend, but not landlords'.  |
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Post by popee2 on Feb 8, 2012 16:50:12 GMT -5
St Louis ... out of my sphere of influence unfortunately.
I assume you don't have a lease? And have tried reasoning with the upstairs lady? But if she is adamant that you must go, then don't waste a minute, be as proactive as you can be. Anything to sell? Any neighbors that might let you store your stuff for a while? Community services? Churches? Hopefully you don't get bogged down with the "woe is me" syndrome, it will cloud your vision.
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Post by mamza on Feb 8, 2012 17:19:17 GMT -5
Thank you, Mamza, Enigma, and ZD. Lisa, if you're not sure you can distinguish between the two, just take a second to notice what you're doing. If you're halfway through writing a check, that's what you must be doing, right? Because if it weren't what you must be doing, you wouldn't be doing it. May I take that to mean that "just do what the body knows must be done this moment" is already whatever it is you happen to be doing? I am embarrassed to admit to a bit of disappointment, as I was hoping that it meant it would somehow clue me in on what I should -really- be doing, lol. … …If there even is such a thing, that is. Hm. @ ZD: Thank you. I hadn't realized woo-woo experiences were so transitory for most people; nice to know. Yeah, I put very little stock in the small ones I've had, and from the sounds of it, it'd be pointless to wait for a Buddha-scale one. Fortunately I never believed such a thing would happen to me anyway, so it's not like I've been expecting such a thing. … I haven't read Byron Katie's book yet, so I took nobodyishome's suggestion of the title and have picked up a used copy off amazon. I look forward to reading it. I also look forward to your thoughts on that picture, if/when you feel like posting any. The idea of what you 'really' should be doing is a good one to pay attention to. Just keep asking yourself what you should be doing and looking around for the answers. Sooner or later you'll find one. It's one thing to just accept it the way we say it, but it's an entirely different beast to see it for yourself. |
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Post by runstill on Feb 8, 2012 17:20:51 GMT -5
That intentional community looks like a good option NBisH. I think it would be unreasonable to expect yourself to not be thinking about the future at the moment, your body mind system is quite naturally and correctly going to be coming up with different options to consider at the moment, and that's gotta be a good thing. Is hitch hiking is a feasible option where you are.....? I assume you have no other family/friends you could move in with....? (I'm not asking you to give me an answer to that question, its your business of course). One of the reasons I turned to the manifesting material in the end was because my body mind system was giving me such strong signals to pay attention to the conditions, and no amount of 'being present' was gonna change the conditions significantly. In a way, at the time, my attempts to be present in the face of my quite disastrous conditions was going AGAINST the flow of intelligence. I basically discovered that my body mind system really is kinda fussy about the conditions! It has preferences! So I can totally relate to the lack of appeal in being homeless in winter. You gotta do what you can to stay warm. Makes me think of my current situation with my Mum, who has been in poor health. 7 months ago when I saw her for the first time in ages, she was close to death. Now although I am really quite at peace and at ease at the deepest level with the potential of her death, at the level of the body mind system, I have been absolutely compelled to help her work towards health. To an onlooker of the family, it could look as if I am quite obsessed with helping her to get well, at the very least it looks like a strong attachment/dedication. And in a way it is an attachment, but its not 'mine'. Its quite simply that its not appropriate or right for me to NOT do absolutely everything I can. In 7 months she has come along way with me and my wife basically carrying her. She is at a stage now where I am more walking next to her than carrying her. Time will tell what happens. I have to do everything I can. I guess what I'm saying is that 'peace' isn't just about sitting back and watching the flowers and being present. It is very practical, very dynamic. I am dedicated and committed and compelled, albeit in a pretty surrendered way, to take clear and positive action. I am compelled to fight the illness all the way. I am committed to doing everything I can to help my Mum get well. If she gets well, great. If not, well, I will have done all I could, and all I have been guided to do. I guess what I'm saying NBisH is that non-duality really is a very practical and active thing in the end. I dint think 'peace' would have you sitting around watching the flowers waiting to be evicted. At the very least it would have you exploring options.
Notwithstanding a ride share hitchhiking would be my only option.
I would have enough for a bus ticket but they don't allow dogs so that's out and I have nowhere enough to fly.
I don't know and that much I do know. Honestly I never felt so down as I do now and yes there is fear. It's a funny thing I'm a Vietnam Vet, boots down. Though Nam was no picnic and I watched my friends die, this situation is hitting me much harder. I have no support system of friends.
I do know ppl in California where I lived before that if I showed up that could possibility help but who knows. I burnt many ole good bridges in my life. I have always been self-sufficient and depended on no one but myself.
What hurts deeply for me is not finding any work to just have a little cushion and not from lack of trying.
Anyhoo
thanks for your thoughts
NBisH Here's a idea I've seen work before if you want to take your dog with you go to a 2nd hand store find something that will work as a vest for the dog.Then find a place similar to the link I provided click on the word patches left side of page, put it all together and with a little acting you will be able to get on a bus, train or into restaurants. do you have a mailing address? www.hearingimpaired.net/service-dog-products.html |
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