love

[cabinintheforest]

Anyone on this forum ever been in love (as in partner relationship) and what do people on this forum think about love?

[skyblue]

Mar 5, 2010 13:12:55 GMT -5 @cabinintheforest said:

Anyone on this forum ever been in love (as in partner relationship) and what do people on this forum think about love?

I believe romantic love is part of the illusion but ...... while we are here..... it sure is fun.

[lightmystic]

I am currently in love, both on a personal level and impersonal level.

I find that love is the recognition of connection between two things. On a personal level, it's just part of the story. Unless there are any specific questions, I'm not really sure what to say about it. On an impersonal level, it extends out to everything. People seem to get overly focused on it for some reason (although I'm not saying you are). I think it must because that's the closest they can conceive of to nonduality without having to give up what they cherish the most - attachment to being an individual.

Mar 5, 2010 13:12:55 GMT -5 @cabinintheforest said:

Anyone on this forum ever been in love (as in partner relationship) and what do people on this forum think about love?

[cabinintheforest]

Love is not an illusion. Love is real. It is a blessing. Love is reality

[karen]

I know the feeling of affection, but I don't know it's real other than I have really felt it. I don't know what's real. I don't know what reality is.

I'm pretty sure I assume what reality is, but I'm pretty sure the assumption wrong.

[skyblue]

Cabin:
You asked about romantic love.

[robert]

i like what JM said about emotion, that all emotion is one emotion FEAR that even love is in the end the fear of abandonment.
hi everyone.
r.

[cabinintheforest]

Yes romantic love is real, it is not an illusion.

[karen]

Is it more real than other kinds of love?

[lightmystic]

Just to look at the other side. Romantic love triggers an openness in us that is surely real. But then we assume that the love has something to do with the other person. In reality, it doesn't. It's just that they showed us a quality that we have not fully accepted in ourselves yet and that caused us to open. The love itself is, of course, a real feeling, and it is wonderful. The idea that it relates to the other person is the source of great suffering in many cases. Without relating that, people can be appreciated, but they are not thought to be the source of openness, and so they are not being USED to get our openness fix. That's where all of the expectations come in, and guilt and the ways in which relationships keep people down, from facing how they actually feel. At their best, relationships help us discover ever more deeply who we are, without culturing co-dependency.

Mar 8, 2010 19:24:09 GMT -5 @cabinintheforest said:

Yes romantic love is real, it is not an illusion.

[robert]

i am sorry to be the one to say this. well, no i'm not, but none of this is real. none of it is real. i know that we feel that we must find something to anchor ourselves to but this will all be gone before any of us know it. yes there are things that we must accept there are things hat we must deal with because we simply do. but love, hate anger happiness and fear are emotional states generated by an ego that will do anything to stay in control. yes i must allow for the existence of these things in others, but i do not have to give these ideas purchase in this thing called me i am cleaning house not adding decoration.

[lightmystic]

Hey Robert,

I'm not sure that the fact that no concept can grasp reality means that no experience is real. It just means that no experience is permanent and no experience means what we think it means. Of course they're always changing, and cannot be conceptualized but that doesn't make them unreal....it just makes our opinion of what they are or what they mean unreal.

[cabinintheforest]

i am sorry to be the one to say this. well, no i'm not, but none of this is real. none of it is real. i know that we feel that we must find something to anchor ourselves to but this will all be gone before any of us know it. yes there are things that we must accept there are things hat we must deal with because we simply do. but love, hate anger happiness and fear are emotional states generated by an ego that will do anything to stay in control. yes i must allow for the existence of these things in others, but i do not have to give these ideas purchase in this thing called me i am cleaning house not adding decoration.

Robert you seem to have alot of opinions which is fine, but you can't seem to back any of them up with evidence.

You are one of these people who believes nothing is real? Im not going to laugh at this, im not going to say 'hey stop watching the matrix' etc But what i will say is there is evidence which can prove certain things are real.

I study Christian Science (even though i am not CS) And this denomination here concludes matter is unreal and love is real. They have evidence for this.

Love is real. I don't mean to offend you in anyway but maybe the only reason you are saying love isn't real is becuase you have never experienced or understood it. The reason i say this is becuase in your other posts you say things like you would like to have 50 women etc. With that lustful attitude you will not experience love, now im talking love in a relationship here between one man and one women. You need to experience it and understand it, and then you will come to the conclusion it is real.

God bless.

[frankshank]

Hi Cabin. It was I who stated I wanted 50 women as part of my ego illusion and not robert. It was only meant in a very light hearted way and as such should not be taken too seriously. Love you. Frank.

[cabinintheforest]

Ok sorry for the name mix up, but still 50 is too many. Only need one.