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Post by laughter on Oct 4, 2015 20:50:30 GMT -5
Yes, those are definitely some specific qualities of hardening. By natural, what I mean is that it's a very common choice to resort to the coping strategies that lead to hardening. It's a rational choice to inure oneself to various negative life factors like bad traffic, a boss that is prone to fits of rage, a child that seems to get into one mishap after another, etc.If one takes the time to tune into culture, it's pretty easy to discern that quite alot of it is disconnected, hard and unnatural. Don't mean it ain't perfect though. So what did you mean by this then? "Hardening also isn't necessarily a function of sensitivity. Some insensitive peeps are naturally hard." that sounds like more than just a coping strategy.....? I don't understand how someone's nature could be both hard and sensitive. (not the way you initially described 'sensitive' anyway). Read more: spiritualteachers.proboards.com/thread/4284/hardening#ixzz3ncG8l0pWSensitive people harden themselves in order to cope with external pressures. Their nature is sensitivity, their nurture is hardness.
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Post by laughter on Oct 4, 2015 20:53:40 GMT -5
Some peeps are naturally more attuned to what's going on around them. This includes how other people feel, but isn't limited to just that. It can also include a propensity to notice subtle sights, sounds, scents and textures in the environment they find themselves in at the time. It's not that their perceptive abilities are naturally heightened: peeps with coke bottle glasses and hearing aides can be this way. It's a matter of the direction of attention. This isn't a virtue, and it isn't even really necessarily an advantage in the way that a high IQ or manual dexterity or natural athleticism is. It can be advantageous, in certain circumstances, like, say, a negotiating table, and most great artists would likely fall into this group. But as the majority of people aren't like this, the circumstances demanded of the average person can be, at times particularly taxing for the sensitive ones. The natural response to this challenge is to harden. As at the extremes, the alternative seems to be madness, this response is not only rational and self-justified, but seemingly, well worth the tradeoff.I swear I first read it as "The natural response to this challenge is madness,.. .. is not only rational and self-justified, but ..." and said to myself: "Marvellous!!" That aside, once I had to do a statistical survey-job and it was very difficult for me to go and ask employers some financial questions (they didn't want to answer at all). It began awkwardly and one day I even ran away from a work place almost crying (they said women shouldn't wander around much). But by the two hundreth place or so I wasn't minding anything.. I don't know how it happened, an official personality formed in me. Don't know if it can be counted as hardening? I was the same but now I had some mild "you don't have a reason/excuse to not answer!" air towards the people. Yeah, great example. Another type of phenomena that's closely related is becoming jaded. It's natural for people to react to situations out of conditioned responses, especially ones that involve tedium or constant petty sorts of confrontation like you faced in that job.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2015 23:26:15 GMT -5
perhaps unrelated , but hard water leaves my hair flat and soft water allows it to bounce naturally edited for topicality What shampoo are you using these days farmer.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2015 7:57:12 GMT -5
perhaps unrelated , but hard water leaves my hair flat and soft water allows it to bounce naturally edited for topicality What shampoo are you using these days farmer. 'Aussie' would answer your question, but better than that.. you've stumped me... I can't find anything funny, clever, or semi-pertinent to say
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2015 10:41:09 GMT -5
What shampoo are you using these days farmer. 'Aussie' would answer your question, but better than that.. you've stumped me... I can't find anything funny, clever, or semi-pertinent to say I thought you might have said something like, anything with aloe vera in it which gives your hair the bounce and shine needed to give you confidence to confront the world, but maybe not.
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Post by figgles on Oct 5, 2015 11:12:58 GMT -5
What shampoo are you using these days farmer. 'Aussie' would answer your question, but better than that.. you've stumped me... I can't find anything funny, clever, or semi-pertinent to say hahaha......interestingly enough, I used this product many years ago, (20+) and never since, and then just yesterday found myself pulling it from the shelf and placing it in my basket after all these years. I forgot how good it smells.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2015 12:19:34 GMT -5
'Aussie' would answer your question, but better than that.. you've stumped me... I can't find anything funny, clever, or semi-pertinent to say I thought you might have said something like, anything with aloe vera in it which gives your hair the bounce and shine needed to give you confidence to confront the world, but maybe not. looking past the sage hair tips, I'm guessing 'confidence' and 'confront' were the key words of your remark edit to add: hey Satch, your words have already had a tangible result! thanks! ;-)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2015 8:02:54 GMT -5
I had waffles and sausage for breakfast. Now you know. That wasn't so hard was it? It will be under the glare of a doctors office florescent that you will discover the resulting hardening of your arteries. fyi - Dr Bill eta - mmmmm grits.. slathered in butter, with generous amounts of salt... btw - can you describe the taste of salt...?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2015 10:05:09 GMT -5
I thought you might have said something like, anything with aloe vera in it which gives your hair the bounce and shine needed to give you confidence to confront the world, but maybe not. looking past the sage hair tips, I'm guessing 'confidence' and 'confront' were the key words of your remark edit to add: hey Satch, your words have already had a tangible result! thanks! ;-) Ha ha. This was one occasion when I was just making a joke rather than trying to say anything profound. What was your tangible result.
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