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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 11:35:56 GMT -5
Then is it accurate to say that the mind/body of Peter weighs up the pros and cons of making a decision? Ha ha, that is a VERY apt question. Sometimes I feel like the decision is already made and there's just a process of rationalising that needs to be done to explain it. I think The Architect says something similar to Neo in one of the Matrix films. Sometimes I feel like decision has been made (eg I really feel like i'm going to have an affair) and I know it's the "wrong" decision so I run through the pros and cons and who I want to be and what my value system is. Then I sleep on it, and find that my mind changes it's decision overnight. So I think the subconscious is making the decisions, but how much of that is "me" and how much of it is not, I can't say. Certainly subconscious me is very good at (that old stalwart in these discussions) driving. I don't give it any conscious thought at all, I just drive. But I was also there when I learned to drive. Just because I'm not aware of 99% of my brain's activity doesn't mean I don't have responsibility for it. The subconscious does whatever it's in the habit of doing, and changing those habits takes conscious effort. The process I'd like to work on at the moment is - in 4th Way terms - becoming one person. So what I think is what I say is what I do. And what I want to do, I do, and what I don't want to do I don't do. I'm not there yet. I say "I want to be in bed lights out by 10pm tonight" and then I find myself having a beer and playing a computer game until 1am. If I just let the machine run itself and get "me" out of the way, it doesn't do itself any favours - know what I mean? So it's all very well to say "it just happens", but if I let it "just happen" then this mind/body is going to be one big waste of carbon. In this mind/body's opinion.
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 11:23:50 GMT -5
How is what you do different? I don't think it's different from what you're doing with Steven, though I wouldn't say I'm clear about your motivation. (Just means I don't know what it is for sure)Crikey this board is moving fast - I had to search through your last 50 posts because I remembered I wanted to respond to this one. Thanks for replying Enigma - I wasn't sure you were going to. I didn't mean my question in a challenging "Look at yourself" way (although there was a flavour of that). I thought there was an answer along the lines of my "comments" being about the personal and your "feedback" being about the ideas. But then if personal is just an idea in itself the the distinction is lost...and then I'm lost too. I'd be very surprised if you could be clear about my motive in interacting with Steven as it is no one thing. To a large extent I don't worry about it - the post is read, the urge to respond is felt, the fingers start typing whatever comes to mind. Working out the actual motivation takes quite a bit of soul searching - and I may well miss something or get the amounts wrong. There's a large dose of irritation - being rubbed up the wrong way, so you know there's a boundary there. The gap - gulf - between what I see as the emotional tone of Steven's posting and the attempt at simulating humour is like a splintered shard in my brain. There's compassion, a desire to help - I don't know where that would be in percentage terms. There's showing off intellectually: "I see this thing that you don't see", there's showing off emotionally: "I'm so reasonable and grounded and you're losing the plot". There's loyalty and respect for where I think you (Enigma) are and how you "do your thing" here...which did get called into question with the whole suggestion of "group think" coming up. There's a small smattering of "oh why can't we all just get along and let everyone be who they want to be". And I ask myself why I can't do that for Steven? He's no interest in listening or Doing The Work. But neither do you or Zendancer, and yet I've never felt the need to suggest that either you or he should. I think in Steve's case the bottom line is that I've no confidence that he's "There" and I think he's puffing himself up. And more than that, he's actually needing to "Get Something" from others - that need for recognition, to be seen as The Teacher. That predatory drive. How he was with Acewall, and then taking on Freejoy with similar terms. I took the same reaction to Randy/Michaelsees and also to Lord SwamiCollins, both of whom called me a 'trouble maker' and I'll agree I did make trouble for them. Actually SCollins said he'd reported me to the police. So with Steven here, that makes an average of 1 a year. I don't know, it's like being at a British Pantomime where someone comes on stage saying "Look at ME, I'm a Spiritual Teacher" and I'm the audience yelling back "Ooooh No You're Noooooot".
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 10:25:55 GMT -5
But a decision is being made, yes? The mind/body of Peter weighs up the pros and cons of making a decision? It's just that I'm not that mind/body, yes no maybe? The mind/body of Peter doesn't do anything all by itself. It's never completely alone and disconnected. Yeah. I never thought it did. Some days I feel like "I" have a vote in my life, but not much more than that. Sometimes the vote goes my way, sometimes it doesn't. Like the tree, it's fuzzy at the edges. Where do the roots stop and the soil start? If you look closely you can't say exactly. And yet, a tree is a tree. Trees get cut down, turned in lumber, made into tables. And of course there's a whole universe that supports that process - the tree needs a billion conditions to exist in order to grow. And yet a tree is a tree.
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 10:11:15 GMT -5
So please to explain: In what sense does free will exist and in what sense does it not? It exists, period. But it's not real. So unreal things exist. OK. Does anything real exist? If so, what? For example. Or is that that _______ thing? Like everthing that is and isn't and might be and was and will be and won't be?
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 10:07:55 GMT -5
That fits right into above discussion with Andrew. Can you be the I that can be observed? Are you the mad one or the hurt one? Who dishes out these labels? Hmm. Done this before, but I'll take another run at it. Peter is the one that gets pointed to when the question "who just shouted at the kids" gets asked. Wife says "Peter", the kids say "Daddy" and I say "me". Someone shouted, and the mind/body responsible for that puts up it's hand. Can it be observed? Certainly, and a with a much finer level of observation than any other "person" can be observed. I've got access to emotional state, thoughts, memory, temperature readings, blood sugar issues. I'm the one that remembers feeling mad or hurt. Nobody else remembers that - at least, not in that situation in that body on that day. You don't remember being rejected by my wife do you Exactamente? I'm sure you'd say if you did. OK, I'm not saying I'm my memory. But given the same situation again - which is seen as an undesirable, sub optimal reaction - understanding is required and change must be made otherwise the projected future is that realtionships will deteriorate. Hey, that mind body has a lot going on! There can be many layers of "I". And when go to bed tonight and fall unconscious, they all get switched off, the angry one, the hurt one, all will disappear. And in the morning, the system gets rebooted. Where are you between shutdown and reboot? In the same way that Windows gets stored in hibernate, that emotional state gets written to memory and when I'm switched on again I review that memory and BY GOLLY I'M UPSET AGAIN. Or maybe I'm not. Emotions come and go, they're funny like that. I try not to worry about it too much.
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 9:43:37 GMT -5
Well, that's what I'm saying. Free will and not free will both do exist on an appearance level. Well that charming little sound bite generates irritation. So please to explain: In what sense does free will exist and in what sense does it not? Venn diagram might help here.
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 9:35:04 GMT -5
I just mean that nothing is personal. You do not have an ego or any issues associated with said ego. You do not have a self to improve or an image to maintain or a responsibility to fulfill. No 'spiritual growth' to accomplish, nothing to learn, nowhere to get to. I've heard this said so many times, and now I feel like I'm coming back to year 1 of some Identity Addiction Programme to ask a newbie question. Hi, my name is Peter, and I've been living with an "I" for 38 years now. So what "I" want is to not fcuk my kids up. Mostly I think I do a good job - they get cuddled and told they're loved several times a day which is an emotional improvement from the previous generation. So that puts me currently in the "Self Improvement" camp which I know isn't your bag, Enigma. OK, so if I don't "have an ego", then what gets ratty with the kids when they don't eat their soup? Obviously something 'thinks' that there's an Ego. Jesus, what's been driving this thread for the last week if not Ego Action? What feels wounded - and reacts, making the situation worse - when my wife says she doesn't fancy sex tonight? Where does this go - are you saying that there is a personality but it doesn't belong to "me" ? Is the change one of identifying oneself as everything that ever is, was or will be? I don't get it. To change, effort has to be expended. If the world is to improve, individuals must make the effort to change. Which means they need courage to face up to the fact that change is required. Obviously Spiritual Growth does happen... You're saying this either happens or it doesn't and if it happens it was always going to happen and that this is no-one making a decision to change? But a decision is being made, yes? The mind/body of Peter weighs up the pros and cons of making a decision? It's just that I'm not that mind/body, yes no maybe?
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Post by Peter on Feb 9, 2012 8:46:47 GMT -5
In any case, this thread actually went pretty well, everybody except enigma/exactement and Angela at least took a decent look at theirselves and their stories You missed yourself off that list of exceptions Steven. I haven't seen any evidence of you looking at a damn thing. I was thinking about why you've ignored so many of my questions and had a 2nd epiphany - I hope to get a post written about it while the energy is still there. There's a bit of ranting to be done, and hopefully, some swearing. Well I am really grateful that this forum isn't the heavily moderated kind. I'm grateful that perceived mocking and poking and demeaning doesn't get people banned and I'm grateful that some of the stuff in this thread (which honestly makes me downright sorrowful in parts) doesn't get anyone banned. The freedom for this stuff to be explored in whatever way it happens is a very good thing. I totally agree, Kate. There's an idea in alchemy that we need to get our cauldron pretty hot before the impurities can be burned off. Certainly been a bit of heat generated in this thread!
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 17:40:30 GMT -5
you [Andrew] seem to spend a lot of time trying to show me problems with myself that I don't know about. He is, and I've thought about what's driving that. I know I'm doing the same with Steven, and I've been thinking about what's driving that. How is what you do different?
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 17:17:57 GMT -5
I was surprised you opened the door to Andrew about the possibility that you might not be 100% secure - is there doubt? I don't remember doing that, but in my story it's clear there's no way to say something that can't be found wrong by whoever is interested in finding something wrong about it. Ah yes, that's certainly true. And then if they can't find it, they'll invent it - probably with a long neck. I was referring to your post here. I take it from your reluctance to answer my question just a couple of sentences earlier that you do consider yourself to be seeing the world without any filters. Regardless, I'm curious: would you say that you consider (by 'you' I mean your mind which is comprehending what I'm writing and formulating a reply) yourself able to clearly see the true motivations and current blind spots of others, or do you just not worry in the slightest about it since such things are illusionary in the first place? .... or some 3rd option I haven't thought about because that's usually what it turns out to be
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 16:15:37 GMT -5
I will tell you when I had money non duality was so darn easy but man when things get this fuk up it really messes with the mind.I seriously felt that I had the incessant thought to non-abidance in the mind down and pat and now I am seeing myself being triggered in ways that are shocking my very core. How can I just sit and smell the flowers and look at trees and just be present when each day I am becoming closer to being entirely homeless.
Anyhow that's me being as vulnerable as I can with you folks. Hey there NBisH, I'm really sorry to hear you're having a tough time at the moment. It sounds like you're being really challenged to engage with society on it's terms (money, food, travel, accomodation) rather than yours. There is a lot to be said for trusting the Universe, but there's also that phrase about God helping those who help themselves. Anyway, good luck, man. Peter
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 15:17:19 GMT -5
Glad I'm not in that group. ;D Are you? I felt a bit left out. Well, lots to catch up on - been out with the kids all day. So lots of different things came up for me during that whirlwind trip through 9 (nine!) pages of posts since I last checked in: ---- Just to remind Steven in case he was accidentally failing to answer that question of whether or not he has someone in his life who's opinion he values who also tells him when he's wrong? I also had that Post from this morning where I asked some questions around him saying " the problem in some cases, we assume that becuase we have centered ourselves in the beingless being of essential nature that no further work is to be done". There's a lot flying around Steven so I assume the stream flowed on before you'd read it, but if you just decided it wasn't relevant to you then of course that's your prerogative. ---- But the problemo in this case is that Tath was the one who used the word 'poking' first. Enigma didn't say that he is poking people, neither did I. That's Tath's story. The word "Poking" was introduced by Zendancer's predecessor - LightMystic - who I assume either ascended or died suddenly. He left without saying goodbye. It's been in common use here since 2008 to describe any sort of challenge when someone says something and someone else asks them about it. Tath is the first person to equate poking with bullying however - unless I missed a memo. ---- I notice that Steven is back to LOL'ing - he must be feeling better. There was even a "LMFAO" going on. Hey, don't get me wrong, it's a great avatar. Kudos FreeJoy. I'd give you a Karma point IF I HAD ANY. Myself, I had quite a grin for a couple of minutes. Arse stayed attached though, no danger there. ---- Angela, I really appreciate your posts. They have such a radically different flavour - it's like night and day to the rest of this thread. Thank you. ---- I've taken Steven's point that "it's all stories", although I also know from experience how irritating it can be when someone says "that's your story". So our whole lives are stories. So in a sense, they're not real. But within the context of a story, something can be real and true. Like "Luke Skywalker owns a LightSabre". That's a true statement. About a totally made up story, but it's still true. Relatively. ---- it's not anyone's style that is not trying to support a story based on egoic clinging and defending of that story ;-) Sorry, I read it 3 times and it didn't seem to make sense. I read it 5 and fared no better. Steven, you're trying to be a teacher, guy! Never never use a double negative, unless you're deliberately trying to make your communication unintelligible. ---- The reason they're all different, obviously, has to do with the filter y'all are looking through. Well you're a contributor to this story too Enigma. I was sorry you chose to say "y'all" rather than "we're all". Are you saying you have no filter? If so, you know how that whole "I see this clearly, just as it is, and you lot don't" line pans out. I was surprised you opened the door to Andrew about the possibility that you might not be 100% secure - is there doubt?
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 3:53:08 GMT -5
Not like you to make such an unhelpful post, Andrew. You normally at least give some explanation. If there's no do-er and it's all just happening, how can any one thing be more or less separated from any other thing? Or are you making that point that: If you think you've Got It, you haven't Got It?
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Post by Peter on Feb 8, 2012 3:45:01 GMT -5
this is the problem in some cases, we assume that becuase we have centered ourselves in the beingless being of essential nature that no further work is to be done...in most of the spiritual traditions of the world, this is just the initiation phase where one begins to do real work toward budhahood OK, this is where I see you as - begging your pardon - having a bit of a blind spot. Q1. Do you feel or do you not feel that you have further work to be done? Q2. If you think you do have further work to be done, what do you think that work consists of? On a day to day nuts and bolts 'actually doing', what is it that needs to be done? Q3. Is it probable that other see things about you that you yourself cannot see, because it would be damaging to your ego to see them? Q4. Right now, in this thread, do you feel open to considering what is being mirrored back to you, or do you feel defensive? It doesn't have to be win/lose here you know. You can hold your mirror up to Enigma so he can see what it is you want him to see at the same time seeing something about yourself; it doesn't invalidate your point to be open to considering what else is going on. A bunch of peeps chasing each other around with mirrors - hope no-one trips.
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Post by Peter on Feb 7, 2012 16:47:17 GMT -5
Apologies, Peter, if I just can't answer this, right now. I just had an "AHA" moment, and I'm still giggling on the inside. At the same time, I can understand how this might be disconcerting later, and I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression as to what I'm perceiving is going on. Besides, I could still be mistaken. No worries Beingist, I look forward to hearing what it is you've gained when you feel able to express it. I've got a mother in law who sometimes pays us visits for extended periods. I'm very fond of her and she's a wise woman. But she likes things to be done The Right Way and I sometimes find that a bit of a challenge. So we might find ourselves in a fairly heated discussion about whether or not bunk beds are a good idea or not. And out of that tension, I might learn something, gain some insight into life. The difference with what's going on here is that when I mention my insight, my Mother-In-Law doesn't turn around and say "Ah ha Yes, you've learned the lesson I was trying to teach you using this carefully constructed somewhat picky irritable house guest persona because I am a Gifted Spiritual Teacher." Well if I'm not sure of quite what the primary point of this thread was supposed to be, I'm at least sure that SC has no sense of humour. And if he were able to look at that and work with it then it would improve his ability to teach and in fact to be a halfway likeable human being.
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